Romania set an Oct. 6-7 date for a referendum to change the constitutional definition of marriage and family to an union between a man and a woman, banning the legal union between two people of the same sex. The costs for this referendum are aproximately 35 million euro. The initiative for this referendum was taken by organizations that advocate for traditional family values in Romania and Orthodox priests. In some schools in Romania, priests have started to go to parent-teacher meetings urging parents to go to the referendum and vote Yes! for changing the Constitution.
Historically, in Communist Romania in 1957 any sexual intercourse between persons of the same sex was criminalized, and in 1968 after Nicolae Ceasusescu’s rise of power, the Article 200 was introduced, this ‘infraction’ was moved from the public domain into the private and the sexual relations between persons of the same sex were punished with imprisonment from 1 to 5 years. Article 200 which was punishing gay people with prison was eliminated in 2001. In the same year, in the Netherlands, gay marriage was recognised as legal. 17 years later, 3 million romanians signed a petition for a referendum that forbids the legal right of marriage to gay people.
Now, everybody knows already that Romania is stuck back in time – concerning roads, highways, hospitals, education, salary, basic life conditions, due to coruption, our politicians greed, mentality and others. Luckily, the new generations are trying to build up a modern Romania, passing the borders, seeing the world, some educating themselves abroad – the younger generations are still having a vivid curiosity about the west – we try to distance Romania from the communism and non progressive mentality. Sadly, this referendum shows exactly the opposite – not only it’s embarrassing that the country is being light years behind modernity, we romanians also show off with our blindly fighting attitude – hidden under the name of ‘proud to be romanian’, defending the romanian ‘values’, namely – the traditional family.
The Propaganda for this referendum has begun: a huge poster is displayed in the big cities, and there it’s written: “Defend the Family and the Children of Romania! If you don’t come to vote, two men can adopt your child”. Before saying that I find this stupid, I do believe that some good people that are against gay marriage might have their reasons – which might be understandable, believing fiercely in Jesus world, defending the Bible, whatsoever. People are different and believe in different things and that’s all right. But what I find stupid and shameful is the use of this absurd propaganda. What causes angerness is this attempt to manipulate. So to say, the propaganda banner induces the idea: if gay people are given equal rights to marry legally, just like heterosexuals, some two men will come and adopt YOUR child. Have fear! Stay in your cave and hide your kids!
The main argument of the ones who oppose legal gay marriage is a question – what will you answer to your child if he sees two homosexuals kissing?
From all the problems that Romania has, we are making an unproblem a problem. What will you tell your child if he sees your father beating your mother (statistics: every 30 second a romanian woman is beaten)? How will you explain your child domestic violence (75%-80% of romanian women are subject to domestic violence – physical, psychological or verbal)? How will you tell him that 50.000 romanian kids are orphans and 1/3 go to sleep with hunger? How will you explain your child that you can learn all your life and live on a miserable salary? How will you explain your child that you have to work abroad as an imigrant in Spain and Italy, that he has to be raised up by his grandparents, so that the family will be able afford a phone, clothes, normal things? How will you explain him that the highways and roads are still not built, that he gotta bring his own soap when he goes into the toilet into a public hospital bathroom? How will you explain your child that he should be different – not a thief, not a corrupt – when all he sees are this kind of people climbing up by this means on the social scale?
Instead, we’re spinning around, holding on so tight until our fingers are bleeding, with the last breath, to the idea that – no matter how shitty everything in this country is going – at least we are proud to be romanians, we are proud to fight for our values – the traditional family. We gotta wake up a bit before we’re becoming a joke.